If you’re willing to fight for something, it must be important to you. And, if you value it, then it must make your life worth living.
Sometimes I hear people talk about “what they are willing to fight for” and what they want, but I’ve never really thought about things in that way.
As I walk down this “recovery road” I have to sit and wonder what I’m willing to fight for. What is worth all of my energy and stress? What is worth a struggle?
Well, here are some things I think we should fight for:
1.Happiness: Do I even need to explain this one? It’s a challenge to stay true to myself and to not give into society’s expectations, but I try to do it anyways. Feeling good about yourself because of who you are – not who society thinks you are has to be the most gratifying thing in the entire world! It is not easy to find happiness. I speak like I have found it and I live it! That is not true! Oh, how I wish it were true. One of the best things that I have learned through recovery is that happiness can’t be replaced. Happiness is something that you have to find, work for, and keep. You can’t wait for it to come to you, and you can’t assume that others will bring it to you. I have been blessed enough to be able to begin to learn what really makes me, Rachel, happy. Tied into happiness, I would say, I fight for inner peace. One day I will be at peace with myself and that will be when I find true happiness.
2. Self Love: I think this falls so closely with happiness, but I think it is still slightly different. Happiness can be finding meaning in your family and work, but self love is finding a way to be happy with who you are, who you have and will become and the body that you live in. As women, we so often get messages that turn us away from who we are and tell us that we are not good enough, but what we don’t realize is that those messages are not real! They are altered images of people made to look “amazing” that make us feel awful about who we are. We are all already so perfect in so many ways and it’s so hard to believe that when you have so many messages coming at you that say the opposite. I’m wiling to fight for the truth of what beauty is. We all know that stick thin is not beautiful, but magazines still promote it. We all know that healthy is amazingly beautiful, but it’s not promoted. I am passionate about spreading the message that it is okay to be confident about your body and love who you are and what you look like because the more you speak about your own self love, the more you give others permission to speak about their own self love as well.
3. Love: No, I don’t mean romantic love, fighting crazy parents and Romeo and Juliet. I’m talking about all love, and keeping together relationships in the face of obstacles. We don’t have enough love in this world and love can be kept alive if you try hard enough and you’re willing to invest enough into the relationship. It’s a fight, sure, but if the person loves you too they’ll step back and fight as well. They will do whatever is necessary to keep love alive. This applies for all your relationships – family, friends, lovers, mentors, whatever you can think of. Even if people or extenuating circumstances try and keep you apart, keep fighting. Nothing can win until you let it win. If it’s meant to be, it will be! You don’t have to lose when it comes to love.
4. Health: It’s a strange thing to fight for, sure, but make no mistake about it: it’s a battle to maintain health at times. At every instant, there are hundreds of things that people can do in this world – poor nutrition, lack of exercise, forego sleep – things that sound great in the short term, but set us up for failure in the long term. However, I know for a fact that feeling healthy constantly in the long-run feels so much better than the short-term rewards of something that isn’t healthy. Restricting is a hard thing to give up at times. It serves a lot of purposes and it clears up a lot of “wrongs” but it is not the choice to make. It could be tough sticking to the meal plan, and there could be a lot of crying through meals, but the struggle is worth what is at the end (
so they say). We are given one body to live in while we are here and we have to take care of that body. Our small mistakes today could lead us to bigger mistakes tomorrow. That makes my health worth fighting for. (So, essentially – I’m willing to fight for recovery)
What the fight looks like:
Fighting for something can be waged with words. You can talk all you want with your close friends and family about how important love is to you, you can talk all day about your knowledge of nutrition and health, and you can speak about how much you value self love and happiness.
The real fight is waged with actions. It isn’t really a fight until you start acting. If you want to fight for health, be healthy. Sleep well, eat even better, and work out and follow that meal plan. Be an example for others to follow, and be something strong that others want to look up to.
If you want to fight for happiness, try to have it. Stay true to yourself, speak your mind, and live as full as you can in the most blessed way. Own up to your mistakes. Know thyself. Be freely expressive. Be you, and don’t give a damn what other people think of you. You are a child of God and you are made to be unique – allow yourself to be that way!
If you want to fight for self love – show others that you love who you are and you are proud of who you have become. Stand against the messages we received each day telling us we aren’t good enough, or pretty enough or thin enough. Be strong and independent. Fight for the inner peace that we all search for and deserve. We do not have to be at war with our own worth because our society says so.
If you’re willing to fight for something, starting being it. Embody it. Show your passion for it.
Every action you take will be an action in the war, and for what you believe in. Every fight you participate in will be part of the battle to become the happiest person alive.
This is one of my favorite quotes that I try to live by:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.’ We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
– Marianne Williamson
What are you willing to fight for?