Biology says that we are who we are from birth. That our DNA is set in stone.
Our DNA doesn’t account for all of us, though; we’re human.
Life changes us.
We develop new traits. Become less territorial. We start competing. We learn from our mistakes. We face our greatest fears.
For better or worse, we find ways to become more than our biology.
The risk, of course, is that we can change too much; to the point where we don’t recognize ourselves. Finding our way back can be difficult.
There’s no compass; no map.
We just have to close our eyes, take a step, and hope to God we get there.
– Meredith, Grey’s Anatomy
There is so much talk about traits and how things are passed down from our parents etc. In fact, some are trying to find a gene that predetermines an eating disorder. We are not just our DNA – we have been given the blessing of life to live and to shape us. What we use to shape us is our own decision.
Ultimately, we are human. We have been given free will and we can decide what happens. So many people change who they are to suit others, and we truly forget who we are. Recovery is finding your way back – determining who you are – closing your eyes and taking leaps, while facing our greatest fears.